It seems I may have forgotten to mention this previously. The week before I started my new job I was wracked with guilt and a host of other emotions. It was a time of reflection.
In the end I sat down and discussed the affair with my wife. I told her of the emotional affair I had with Meredith and what it meant to me. We talked about it for a while. Acknowledging the affair was the main reason we had counseling together that week.
Since then we’ve discussed it a few times, and I’ve asked her to let me know of any questions she has. Mostly she wanted to know what I got out of that relationship. What I was not getting from her. It was nothing earth shattering as we have discussed most of the issues before.
All of that led to the counseling session where we acknowledged the affair, but then didn’t discuss it at all. Instead we discussed our relationship, and what we want it to be going forward. Both of us. The great thing about the counseling was having an intermediary to help us navigate some very difficult discussions without my wife getting upset.
So to all the readers who feel I never told my wife – I did. But it was massively overshadowed by the conversations we had after that, and I must have forgotten to post anything about revealing the affair. Also I had a lot of other change going on in my life at that time.