What is the next right move? When things get tough it can be overwhelming to consider all that has to be done. All you really need to do is figure out what the next right move is and do it. Then repeat that process.
From February through May of last year I had a physical affair with a woman who worked for me. From December of the year prior though to today I’ve been in an emotional affair with the same woman. I can tell you when I put my goals together for 2016 they surely didn’t say “Put your entire life at risk to bang your hot employee in the conference room.” No it did not. Yet it happened anyway. I suppose I flew too close to the sun.
The physical affair is over. Done. Gone. Has been for over seven months. I am still in love with her. Not much I can do about that right now. Feelings are hard to start and stop on a whim.
My marriage had problems and still has problems, and I’d really like to address them now. However, I keep reading posts about how addressing the problems in the marriage after there has been an affair is worthless and shameful. I know that it was wrong. Trust me I do. But what now? If I want to address my marriage but I can’t do it after there has been an affair then what now? Nothing?